"building a car should be rewarding not stressful" I wish you would have told me that a long time ago! (LOL)
YES, I agree completely. When the stress level hits the tipping point, its time to take a step back. As they say, theres nothing wrong with punting
Sometimes an hour, a day or a week away from a difficult task will make a big difference. 'Caff, from knowing you on this forum over the years I think you are a lot like my son. He tends to get frustrated when he faces a difficult situation or something he doesnt understand quite so well. I tell him to take a step back, deep breath and relax. Easier said than done but it works.
For the door installation, IF the door is in its position and once you open, it drops, there has to be a problem with the hinges. Thats the only moving part. I have years of experience doing door work with building projects and I look at a car door the same way. There are a couple of adjustments. In and out, Up and down and 'wind'. That is when the top is in further than the bottom, and visa versa. I have found removing the strike on the jamb is the easiest way to adjust the door. That way you can open and close without having to latch every time. Also if the latch is out a bit that will throw you off. Take the strike off, adjust the door one way, along the quarter panel and then worry about the in and out.
Good Luck, take a break and stay at it. You will get it. AND dont worry about getting it perfect, they never were!