Kerry, lately it seems like you just can't catch a break!
When my house was struck by lightning, it also knocked out my garage door opener. Fortunately, I was able to just buy a new circuit board, it was less work and cheaper than putting in a new opener. Through the years I have installed dozens of openers, belt, screw, track and direct drive. Like you mentioned they are all built pretty chintzy anymore, kind of a throw away item.
Probably 13 tears ago my next-door neighbor locked himself out of his house. The local fire department came and had his garage door open in two minutes. Most openers have an emergency release latch should the door opener mechanism jam. They pushed the center top panel in about an inch and snuck in a hook around the emergency release and disengaged the opener allowing the door to be pulled open. The Fireman just kind of laughed as he popped open the garage door. I asked if he ever had a door he couldn't pop open and he told me about a Chamberlain opener that uses an electric solenoid to block the rollers in the track. About a year later I had issues with my opener and replaced it with a Chamberlain /Lift master. The opener on my attached garage that gets a lot of use has been trouble free since 2011. I installed the same opener on by detached garage in 2013 and it has been trouble free, but it doesn't get anywhere as many cycles. On my attached garage opener I added a Chamberlain AC surge suppressor and also a battery backup. One benefit is a slightly cleaner looking installation as the opener is mounted on the wall next to the overhead door rather than hanging from the ceiling. I have had three friends now install the same opener. The last told me there is a superseded model that replaces mine. It is supposed to be heaver duty, the battery backup mounts in the opener rather than being a separate unit. Also I think you can monitor the door status with your smart phone.
I just thought I would throw this out there. I do believe there are commercial grade openers that can be used but have no idea how much more they cost. Whatever you wind up with I hope it goes well. If you use a conventional garage door opener, don't connect the pull cord to the emergency release latch, it will make it much harder for a thief to pop the emergency release open.
Picture of the opener, it directly drives the shaft the springs are mounted on and may not work on all doors.
IMG_2299 by
Lawrence Alexander, on Flickr
The solenoid that blocks the door rollers.
IMG_2300 by
Lawrence Alexander, on Flickr